Simple Guideposts To Build Up Successful Relationship
Saturday, December 13, 2008
How to build relationships in a way that brings out the best in all? In relationships we come across every sort of emotions - good or bad but few know how to manage the rough times. Here there are some simple laws that act as guideposts, helping us to prevent grave mistakes.
First law states that there is never a lack of relationships. The idea of the scarcity of love by too many person and persuading to cling to whoever comes their way leads them to get involved with the wrong person, or stay in a toxic relationship. It is important to realize that relationships are plentiful.
Second law states that it is important to know who you are and what you are looking for. It is of the utmost importance to respect yourself and sustain your own values, identity and goals because it is easy to get lost in a relationship, to become a pawn in someone else's world losing your own identity. A healthy relationship is recognition that both partners are equally valuable and share a common goal.
Third law states that be conscious and prudent while choosing your partner for a long term healthy relationship. Be aware of the repetition compulsion that arises due to the unconscious need of yours. Therefore it is suggested that you actively choose different places to go and make a point of choosing individuals who are different from the later.
Fourth law states that avoid being pretentious in your relationship. The plinth of any healthy and happy relationship is based on mutual respect and acceptance and open, honest, communication.
Fifth law states do not manipulate the person whom you love or care. It is important in a relationship that you accept the person as he/she is. If someone feels accepted, they can change themselves, if they want to make your job easy.
Sixth law states to differentiate between infatuation and real Love. Feeling happy, excited, possessive or dependent is simply infatuation, usually based upon fantasy that inevitably fade away with time and is always associated with struggle and pain whereas real love is not based simply upon feelings, which come and go, but on actions.
Seventh law states to focus on the positive points of others as well as yourself. The more we focus upon what is good in a person and let them know, the better result can be achieved.
The last law reveals that each relationship lasts for a certain time and in that period it is our duty to learn, from one another and when times come for departure thank the person and let goes without hesitation and this is the greatest art of relationships.
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posted by Brijesh @ 2:54 AM,
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Relaxing On First Date
Saturday, November 1, 2008
You’ve had your eye on her for weeks. She’s cute, smart, and funny and loves animals. She’s friendly and nice to everyone. You’ve talked over the water cooler about The Daily Show and the Colbert Report. You’ve been wondering if it’s time to take it to the next level.
Knowing that she broke up with a long-term boyfriend about 6 months ago, you don’t want to come on too strong. Gathering your courage, you suggest going out for pizza on Saturday afternoon. You’re happy when she accepts, and aggressor to meet you at the local pizza parlor.
You yourself are no stranger to break-ups; you’ve had a nasty break-up in your not too distant past, as well. Not wanting to scare her off or psych yourself out, you are happy with your choice of location and hope that she is too. Besides, if everything goes well, the pizza joint will be a good spot to look back on as “the first date” place.
One thing you really like about this restaurant is its casual atmosphere. An eclectic mix of music plays over the sound system --- sometimes it’s U2 and acoustic Beatles, other times it’s Kid Rock or even the Dixie Chicks. You never can tell.
They showcase local artists there, as well. Since you’ve been thinking about buying some, it will give you something to talk about should the conversation drag. And what’s more, they have plenty of customers. Young couples, retirees, gays, college students, skaters, and young professionals all love this place, so the people watching are good.
While waiting for your pie, you can sip a beer or a glass of wine and challenge your date to a relaxing game of air hockey. You can tell a lot about a person in the way they approach pool or air hockey tables. Will she hang back and let you make the first move? Will she be aggressive and competitive while still having fun?
It may sound crazy, but a good game of air hockey can really give you insight into a person’s makeup. You’ll learn fast that if she’s fiercely competitive, she may also insist on being right all the time. That may not be what you’re looking for.
If she’s timid and shy, she may be that way in other aspects of her life, and afraid to take chances. Unless you’re looking to mentor her, a tendency to downplay her playing abilities may indicate she’s in the market for someone who’s more of a father figure than a partner.
However, if she plays, laughs and has fun, she’s probably going to be the right girl for you. If she’s able to poke fun at her own mistakes, and doesn’t pout if you happen to win, you’ve chosen a girl who will at least be fun in the short term. Where you take it from here is completely up to you.
Labels: Dating Mistakes, Dating Rules, Dating Tips, Love Poems, Online Dating
posted by Brijesh @ 10:52 AM,
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Are you ready for your first kiss?
Monday, July 28, 2008
Or are you too scared? We all know the feeling of kissing that special someone for the first time.
It's nerve-racking and you don't want to screw up right? The first kiss is always the best kiss. However, kissing is an art that takes time and experience to master. This isn't an artform to take lightly.
The way you kiss can make it or break it with your lover. Can you really take a risk on your first kiss?
Consult our kissing counselors today and get tips for your first kiss!
How to Kiss
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posted by Brijesh @ 9:43 PM,
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To date is now free
Wednesday, May 7, 2008
For example, if you are an in love animal, you would find a place naturally to date the site which supports the in love animals. Your other option must go to a paid dating warehouse and pay them $40/month, or with another enormous figure, to select the in love animals on 1.000.000 other profiles. It is not a wise use of your money or time. The search engines dating use of these warehouses will find the dog of word in the profile of the person and then will indicate match of it to you good for you. And the majority of time the dog of word does not want to say that they love dogs. It could mean that they hate dogs, and the Search Engine just took the dog of word. Perhaps they seized that they love the dogs of film tank. Oh yeah, match of that large still. You obtain the information sent on false wire produced by a machine and the pocket of the owner of site your money. Well, you need do not accept this more my dating friends, a revolution of Internet is in hand. Use the search engines to your advantage. Go to your preferred engine and seize the passion of your life followed to date.
The Search Engine will produce of much of sites which you can draw profit from that is free to employ। Free is good. Several of these sites have the astonishing tools because they are created by owners of small company with higher qualifications of calculation, and they become paid for their hard work by the ADS financed on their sites. This means you wage nothing. And these sites are not refusing.
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Labels: Dating Proposal, Dating Relationship, Dating Rules, Dating Tips, Online Dating
posted by Brijesh @ 2:59 AM,
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To date online is Mort?
Monday, May 5, 2008
The Online dating websites developed appreciably in five last years. Some indicate that they reached its maximum phase, and can’t increase more. Others have a hope more optimistic to date on line. Many contractors feel that that the businesses dating on line do not look at as financially lucrative as they were two years ago. The specialists dating on line look at that it is right a phase of going beyond which is inherent in any businesses, and this tendency of going beyond will disappear in a certain hour.
Many businessmen realize that to date on line lost its gloss and call as average potentials to connect the potential dates, and, with any chance, Mr. /Miss well. The truth, however, is that with the proliferation of much of scams dating on line which has affected much of innocent choose, certain section of the people became increasingly disillusioned about dating on line.
A recent outline on dating online indicates that many people who were taken for victim by various scams and frauds dating on line never give to date online a second chance in their life. This tendency created a fear in the spirit of the people who want to join to online date. Information and the personnel report/ratio of indication of establishment with the full report by a medium on line started to resound strange with them again.
In the medium of this increasing fear towards finding the love by using online media, much of behemoths dating online such as Match.com began their operation against the scams dating on line and the scandals to ensure the environment sure and blocked for chooses to seek to date on line. They started to put pursuant to the tools for innovation in their sites to maintain the hustlers in their sites.
In spite of this negative perception towards the sites online dating in general, there is much chooses which are ready always to test their chance by finding their dates of prospect while dating on line. Consequently, to date on line did not die up to now.
Labels: Dating Proposal, Dating Relationship, Dating Rules, Dating Tips, Online Dating
posted by Brijesh @ 3:06 AM,
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Five Tips for Choosing the Perfect Prom Dres
Thursday, January 3, 2008
Research - have a look on different dress websites, just to see what is available, and read up information about what will suit your body shape. Have a look in magazines too, in order to keep you in touch with what is in style.
Colors - if you want to look stunning make sure you work out what colours will work with your complexion. For instance, girls with pale skin, blue eyes and golden hair should avoid wearing pastel colours, and choose strong earthy tones like red or green.
Plan Ahead - make sure that you go into several shops on your shopping day, and make sure that you start several months before hand. It may take you a while to find the perfect dress, so don’t expect it to be the first one you try on. It may also be a good idea to take pictures of you in each gown so that you can remember what you looked like in each one.
Fit, Style & Color - one of the most important things to consider when trying on a dress is the fit. Even if the dress is the perfect style and colour, you will not have a good evening in a dress that you have to pull up, or hike down all the time.
Lingerie - when you do go out shopping for your dress, always take with you suitable underwear, so it is easier to see the dress as it might appear on prom night. You may also want to think about the make-up you are wearing, keep it minimal, as you don’t want to ruin any of the dresses you try on, especially if they are tight fitting.
Shop online - if you are thinking about buying a dress online or ordering from a catalogue, make sure that you do this much further in advance. These can often have a different fit than you might have imagined, and very frequently they are made of different fabric, or are a slightly different colour than they seem to be in their photos. It will take longer to send things back and re-order than you think, and you don’t want to be relying on postal services to deliver you a dress just the day before prom. It is definitely worth looking online though, as there are often more unique and more stylish dresses to be found.
Accessorize! - when you have found the perfect dress for you, you can start to think about shoes, hairstyles and accessories. Do try and wait to choose these until you have found the dress, because your dress will help you to decide these things. For example, if you chose a classic turquoise 50’s style halter gown, it would not look that great with a sleek, straightened hairstyle, funky red flats and a navy faux-fur shrug; it would look amazing with a curled updo with a tiara, turquoise peeptoe heels and a simple diamante necklace to match your headwear.
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posted by Brijesh @ 1:15 AM,
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Asking Someone for a Date
Tuesday, December 25, 2007
So what do you do?
Biggest clue: THINK AHEAD
You don't want to be standing there going, "Um, ah." when the object of your affection says "Yes."
You can't just looked stunned and be too shocked to utter the next sentence.
You can't wait for that very moment to try to think of what on earth you can do on a date.
You need a more impressive beginning.
If you're at the start of a relationship or asking for a first date, take the pressure off by not using the "D" word.
Don't ask for a "Date" and don't call it a "Date."
If you're uncomfortable saying, "Would you like to go out with me."
Then don't say it.
Make it casual.
But (just a reminder)THINK AHEAD.
Make it specific.
First - two deadly questions NOT to ask:
1- Do not ask, "You want to go out?" it's too open-ended and can lead to awkward follow up conversation.
2- Do not ask, "What are you doing Friday night?"
It's too vague. It may leave your potential date wondering exactly what you have in mind.
The other person doesn't know if you're just curious about what she/he is doing on Friday night or if you want to do something with them...
Try something along the lines of:
"You like to rollerblade? I was thinking of going out to the lake on Saturday. It's great out there. Would you like to go with me?"
Or if you're really uncertain or uncomfortable about getting together - go with a group.
Ask the question:
"Hey, there're a bunch of us going bowling on Saturday. Would you like to go?"
The operative word here is "us." It immediately takes the pressure off.
Planning activities to do on your date and getting together in a group are good ways to go - especially if you think you or your date might get "tongue-tied."
If you're busy or there are a bunch of other people in the conversation, you won't hit awkward silences and won't have to talk all the time if you don't know your date very well.
In summary, just remember when you are asking someone out:
1) Plan ahead
Know what you are going to say AND what you want to suggest to do on the date.
2) Be specific
The other person will be much more comfortable if they know exactly what your intentions are and what you want to do.
AND try to relax and enjoy yourself - worst case - they'll say they can't go out and you'll find someone else who will. Someone who appreciates you.
In other words, if the person you are asking out doesn't have enough insight to recognize what a terrific person you are, then they're just not too bright now, are they?
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posted by Brijesh @ 10:40 PM,
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First Dates with First Date Ideas and Tips
Take a little time to think it through.
A three-hour date with a movie that lasts two and a half-hours is not a good way to get acquainted.
Then again, you don't want to be stuck staring at each other without a topic of conversation.
A daytime meeting takes the heat off.
Lunch or coffee is a good start
Even better - a trip to the zoo.
Plenty of topics for discussion without having to deal with issues like: "What happened to your last relationship?"
And you can avoid the usual casual chit-chat like:
"My wife is still missing."
"I met my first boyfriend on the prison bus."
Yada. Yada. Yada.
Clothing
Clothing is not optional.
Wear clothes that make you feel good.
New clothes always help - but if not new, be sure they're clean, pressed, and fit well - or if that's not your style - be sure they fit whatever way makes you feel the most comfortable and still look presentable.
Help the Other Person Feel Comfortable
Find something nice about your date and compliment her or him.
But mean it. Don't just say, "Nice shoes, Gladys."
"Swell belt, Ralph."
Let's review.
Find something nice. If it's painfully difficult to come up with something that you sincerely like about the person, you shouldn't be out with them in the first place.
Manners and/or Kindness
Thank the other person for the date - always, without exception.
Good manners are still in style. Well, not necessarily good manners - but common sense. Human kindness. That sort of thing is always in style.
Focus on the Other Person - pay attention to your date.
No wandering eyes. No preoccupation with old relationships, work, bank robberies.
Be THERE.
Listen actively to what your date says.
Don't interrupt. While your date is talking, don't spend time thinking about what you're going to say when it's your turn.
Attitudes and Habits - stay positive.
Don't complain on a first date.
Be cautious about alcohol - if you drink heavily, you're not going to be at your best.
If your date gets swacked on your first date, it's not necessarily due to nervousness.
He or she is likely to be a heavy-drinker, at best, and could end up drooling on your new, pressed clothes as you shovel him or her into a cab।
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posted by Brijesh @ 10:34 PM,
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Top 10 Dating Tips
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no perfect tricks of the trade, no cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right and no top dating tips that wave a magic wand. But there are some essential facts that you should always bear in mind along the way. Dating tips are just that - tips, they are not promises written in stone and different things will always work differently for different people. However, I have noticed that there are some threads of advice that keep cropping up and therefore it is worth reiterating my top 10 tips here.
My Top 10 Dating Tips
Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the dating game, decide who you are looking for, do your research and be ready to commit to dating. Half heartedness won't work. Also prepare for some let downs along the way but don't take dating too seriously either.
Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more confident about yourself.
Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you. Don't go overboard and look like someone you are not but maybe its time to throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. People appreciate appearance.
Have a good think about what your dating goals are and timescales. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do then approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date.
Sort out your confidence levels in advance. By following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused. Do all the things that will boost your confidence from avoiding negative friends (often the married ones) to attending the right kind of social functions. Couples at dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be right now.
Choose those you have a good chance of dating, don't aim low but do aim realistically. In other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous then good for you, but be prepared and be realistic about your chances.
Work out in advance where in your neighborhood you are likely to meet people and join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups, anything where you are likely to meet potential partners. The kind of partners you are looking for. I know its a cliché but you will not meet people by staying indoors.
Take time off from dating occasionally if its not going well or causing dating fatigue. Dating is an ongoing process and so recharging the batteries and keeping the confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. So date in phases if necessary.
Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals who may or may not bring you a sparkle. The fact is, most people are interesting and whilst you may not be out there looking for new friends, you may well find one or two fabulous people along the way.
Never ever make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating. In keeping with this do not sleep with your dates early on if you want them to progress, so keep sex until later. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. Peak too early and you have little left to offer and emotions may never have had the time to develop.
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posted by Brijesh @ 7:17 AM,
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Dating Tips and Advice for Workaholics
I approached Internet dating like another work project. Soon I was emailing and meeting new guys on a very frequent basis. Of course, I always met them somewhere convenient and quick, a coffee shop as my favorite place. I could pop in, chat for an hour (which was always my personal rule) and then be on my way. It was merely another meeting I mentally checked off my ever-growing list of to-do’s.
And sure, the occasional guy would gripe because I’d have to reschedule our dates... and reschedule... and then sometimes, cancel. But hey, I figured, if he can’t understand that I’m a busy girl with a life of my own then he wasn’t worth his salt. Right?
It wasn’t until I had met one man via email, who was slightly older than me, with kids and a business he started up and had recently expanded. He sounded smart and interesting and I was intrigued by his emails. Finally the day came when we agreed to meet. I scheduled the date on my calendar for the next week, but as the date approached I realized there was no way I’d be able to make the time and called him to cancel. He was gracious and we continued to talk on the phone, each time I was anxious to get him off the line because I figured I’d have time to get to know him once we met. We scheduled another date and I had to cancel that was as well – a last minute proposal had popped up at my desk courtesy of my unable-to-please boss.
I’m ashamed to say I rescheduled our date three more times. Then finally, finally a couple weeks later I met him right before Christmas. I had taken the day off work but was going in to “catch up” on last minute paperwork. I agreed to meet him for a quick cup of coffee on my way in.
He was handsome and funny and I liked him immediately. Then he said something that made me stop in my tracks, the needle loudly screeching off the soundtrack of my busy life.
“I just had to meet this girl who thinks she’s busier than everyone else.”
It was said in an amusing, not condescending or rude, way. No doubt my mouth hung open as I said, “Huh?”
Perhaps from his own experience, he said, “You my dear, are a workaholic.”
I tried to tell him, it wasn’t me, it was my stupid job... but he shook his head, instead challenging me to go out with him on a real date as soon as Christmas was over and then not change or cancel. He left it with me.
Try and I might, I never really found the time, and when a month had passed, I was too embarrassed to call him. I got his point, however, and wondered how many times I’d given this same runaround to other men. I saw my life in a different light, and vowed to change my ways.
As it happened, that change was made for me as I was abruptly let go from my job. I found it ironic that the job I’d given so much energy to (not to mention 60-plus hours a week) would discard me so easily. And when I looked my life I saw I had nothing left. I continued going to school, and spent some time working on my book. But there was a change in me. I took things at a slower pace.
I continued Internet dating and this time approached it with more patience. Three weeks later I went on a date with a man that was running late. He called me to let me know and instead of just canceling or rescheduling I hung out and drank my tea and relaxed while I waited. As if by fate, my original date, the one who’d claimed me the workaholic, popped in.
He laughed when he saw me, asked “how’s the busy lady today?” and when I told him I lost my job, he shook his head. I told him “I’m much different now” than when we went out and he looked at me a long moment before concluding that he believed that. He left just before my new date, Andy, showed up, and instead of my “hour and out” rule I stayed for three. We chatted, and in short, I married Andy a year later.
Would I have still met and married my husband if I’d had been the crazy workaholic girl from before? I doubt it. So for all you guys and gals that live with the die at your desk mentality, take note:
1) First Determine If You Are a Workaholic
Any kind of “aholic” works to fill an inner-need by filling it up with something else, and the first step is admitting you have a problem. If you are truly a workaholic you’re probably putting aside your friends and potential mates in favor of work. Or, have you simply fallen into a pattern of working long hours? Did you wind up with a demanding boss and equally demanding clients and can’t find enough hours in the day to satisfy them? Or are you working towards a promotion, and once you get it you’ll be able to slow down? Or maybe you just like being busy. Once you determine the root of the issue you can work to correct it. If you feel like your boss doesn’t understand maybe you’ll have to get a new job. Or maybe you just need to learn to say “no” once in a while.
2) It’s All About Priorities
I’ve heard it said that when someone tells you they are too busy to call, they are really telling you they don’t have a priority to call you. As harsh as that may seem, it rings true as we get older and our lives become busier. Maybe you really don’t need to work the hours you do, but you find it a good excuse to put off potential dates. If you don’t want to meet a particular date, do you use work as your standby excuse? Do you find that you really do have time to do certain things and not others? Sure, work emergencies come up, but you need to realize that you are in control of your life. Not your boss.
3) Make Sure Your Attention Is On Your Date When You’re With Them
Even if you have a demanding job, you’re going to have to learn to balance your work and home life. And if you don’t get this concept down, you won’t have a home life to balance. So when you are with your date, pay attention. Listen. Acknowledge things they say and respond to them. Use the time you are with them to truly get to know them, instead of thinking of what you have to do back at work. Turn off that super-busy switch in your head and relax so they can get to know the real you. When you are at the office, take time during the day to email them and let them know you are thinking of them. Call them. In short, communicate. Yes, it will take effort on your part but all relationships do. And it’s worth it.
4) Take Some Tips From Your Married Cohorts
If you’re single you’ve probably noticed that sometimes married folks have a better deal when it comes to business emergencies. If a project required working late, my married coworkers would have real, honest-to-goodness obligations – picking up their kids from daycare, have to put dinner on, etc. Inevitably I would have to work late while I watched them leave on time each day. Was it fair? The married folks would probably say yes, but consider this – is your life less important? It can be hard to tell employers no when you don’t have to pick up kids from childcare but just really need to get home and do wash. But don’t be afraid to say no. You don’t need to give an explanation, you can simply say, “I’m not available.” Your time is just as valuable as the next person’s.
5) Start Developing Your Life Outside of Work
If the majority of your friends are at work, you need to get out. (This goes double if the majority of your ex’s are people you’ve met at the office.) Spend some time engaging in your hobbies (or finding some, if you’ve really been cooped up at the office.) Hanging out with non-work folks will broaden your horizons and help you to converse about things other than work. Don’t you hate it when someone drones on and on about their job and can’t talk about anything else? You might even meet someone cute and fun that you’ll end up dating.
By: Cherie Burbach, author of "At The Coffee Shop"
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posted by Brijesh @ 7:12 AM,
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